Published On: Mon, Mar 5th, 2012

Sex and Aging: It Can Still be Mind Blowing!

-by Mark Becker

Frankly, it scares the hell out of me.

I remember when I was younger, it seemed like it took forever for my birthday and the holidays to come every year. I always loved opening gifts and eating yummy foods, but would have to wait forever to do so – or so it seemed.

According to an article published in April, 2010 by Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., in “Cutting-Edge Leadership“, the best answer for this phenomenon is that the early years are full of first-time, impactful events, such as the first time you sat on Santa’s lap, the first time you attended your first big-time sporting event, or that first “A” on an exam, etc.

First occasions are original events, and we tend to make more detailed and lasting  memories of those first times. When we repeat the event, year after year, it is less likely to make a unique or lasting impression.

 This also applies to events that happen in shorter timeframes. For example, I remember when I was younger and had 2 weeks of vacation during the holidays. That seemed like forever to me. And the first few days were epic. They would completely resonate with me. However, after the first couple of days the time flew by and you’re left wondering, “Where did the time go?”

 The same goes for summer vacation.

 That said, there is nothing more impactful than that first sexual encounter. I will never forget mine!

However, as time marches on, for many, even something as meaningful as these types of experiences seem to weigh less as we get immersed in career, family, and the aging process.

I remember my teen years. Wow! My body was changing.  All I could think about was girls, girls, girls; (isn’t that a Motley Crue song?).

As I went through my 20s and 30s, I felt invincible from a sexual perspective. I was a well-oiled machine that could perform at the highest level despite any abuse I might inflict upon myself. 

However, as aging continues, changes occur. Often, these are very subtle changes that you don’t even notice. Other changes may be very noticeable. Regardless, most of us want to maintain an active, satisfying sex life.

                          What Are Normal Changes?

 Normal aging brings physical changes in both men and women. Some women enjoy sex  more as they grow older.

After menopause or a hysterectomy, they may no longer fear an unwanted pregnancy. This can be sexually liberating for some women.

For many women, perception is reality.  They do not think that things like gray hair and wrinkles make them less attractive to their sexual partner.

However, other women believe that looking young or still being able to have babies is more desirable to their partner. This might make sex less enjoyable for them.

According to, as a woman ages, she may notice changes in her vagina that includes shortening and narrowing of this part of her body.

Additionally, the walls of the vagina become thinner and also a little stiffer.

 These changes do not mean a woman can’t enjoy having sex though!

Additionally, aging women will have problems with vaginal dryness because of decreased estrogen levels, which could affect their sexual pleasure and response.

As men get older, impotence becomes more common.

In fact, According to the National Institutes of Health, approximately 5% of 40-year-old men, and between 15% and 25% of 65-year-old men experience long-term impotence.

This may happen in men with heart disease and in those that have high blood pressure or diabetes.

 In 1998, Viagra was introduced to an eager public, and the success of that erectile dysfunction drug is well documented.

Additionally, testosterone levels play a critical role for men.

Testosterone levels peak in a man’s late teens and then gradually decline. Most men notice a difference in their sexual response by age 60 to 65.

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               Exercise for Great Sex…as You Age

Everyone knows that exercise is good for your health on a wide range of fronts. However, people often overlook the profound impact exercise has on one’s sex life.

For many, a positive body image is essential for a satisfying sex life. And studies support this assertion. 

One study found that more physically fit men and women rated their own sexual desirability higher than less active men and women of the same age.

Eighty percent of men, and 60% of women who exercised two to three times per week rated their own sexual desirability as above average. 

Furthermore, as the frequency of exercise increased, so did the ratings of sexual desirability.

Another study showed that men and women who were more physically fit rated their own sexual performance higher.  Among people who exercised four to five days per week, 88% of the women and 69% of the men reported their own sexual performance as above average or much above average.

These results may be attributed to high confidence level because of one’s own perceived body image.

Physiological factors also play a major role; these include maintaining optimum cardiovascular health which significantly impacts circulation and blood flow.

In fact, erectile dysfunction is often caused by poor cardiovascular health.

Blocked arteries, high blood pressure, and other cardiovascular issues can interfere with the process of blood flow to the penis.  Exercise promotes heart and artery health, significantly reducing the risk of erectile dysfunction.

I have been an endurance athlete for the past 3 decades and have been able to sustain an exercise and nutrition regimen during that time. My success has hinged on having realistic exercise and nutrition expectations. This philosophy has been very successful for me and has had a profound impact on my health on many different levels, including sex.

If you truly want to start exercising regularly, lose weight and improve your sex life, you may need to alter your exercise philosophy.

In an effort to launch a successful exercise routine, you, (or a trainer), should create a specific regimen.

More importantly, design a routine that consists of activity that makes you happy. There is a wide range of fun exercise routines and group workout classes available.

Do not waste your time immersed in a routine that you do not like. This approach is bound for failure.

Some like Salsa classes. Others enjoy yoga. Many love resistance training. 

If you do what makes you happy, you’ll be more likely to sustain your routine on a long-term basis.

That said, I’m not saying you shouldn’t challenge yourself. 

Set goals based on your personality and character.

You know yourself better than anyone and what you are capable of accomplishing.

Establish benchmarks; this is a great mechanism for sustaining your routine. 

Benchmarks are also a great process for [eventually] adding to your routine when your fitness level increases.

The end result will be a rockin sex life!




Over the years, I have become an endorphin addict.

Because endorphins are naturally produced by the body, they are possibly the best, (and most legal way), to achieve a natural high!

Endorphins are polypeptides, which are able to bind to the neuro-receptors in the brain to provide relief from pain.

 Endorphins are one reason why soldiers wounded in battle can continue to fight.

The classic “runner’s high” is another example of a great endorphin rush.

An experienced runner will normally feel pleasure during exercise caused by a release of endorphins. 

Your sex drive and feelings of sexual pleasure also use an endorphin release system.

Each time you exercise, (or have sex),  your body releases these endorphins.

The more frequent and intense the release, the easier it is for sexual arousal and pleasure in the future.

Studies have shown that women who exercise frequently become aroused more quickly and are able to reach an orgasm faster and with more intensity!

Does getting older mean that it is only a matter of time before you start to experience age-related difficulties, including a fading sex life?

It doesn’t have to be that way! Exercise can surely play a major role.

For many men, erectile dysfunction can be virtually eliminated by making exercise a priority.

For women, exercise will make faster, more intense orgasms a reality, not just something you read about in a Harlequin novel.

So…what are you waiting for?!

Mark Becker is the Retail Marketing Manager for Heel USA ( based in Albuquerque, NM. He has worked as a natural products sales and marketing executive for 15 years. Mark has written more than 250 articles and has hosted or been a guest on more than 500 radio shows. He obtained a bachelor’s in journalism from Long Beach State University and did his master’s work in communications at Cal State Fullerton. For almost 30 years he has participated in numerous endurance events, including more than 150 triathlons of Olympic distance or longer, 100 marathons and numerous other events including ultramarathons and rough water swims from Alcatraz to the mainland. He has relied on a comprehensive dietary supplement and homeopathic medicine regimen to support his athletic, professional and personal endeavors. Access additional articles written by Mark at Follow Mark on Twitter at!/becker_mark



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